Now that we've discussed how to meet someone to go on a date with, where do you go? Part 2 of this article will cover a little of where to take each other on this date once you decide to go.
First dates can make us anxious. There's the question of what to wear, what to talk about and of course, where to go. This is especially true if this is the first date you've been on in a long time, maybe in years or for some of us, decades!! Ok, maybe not decades....
SMART FIRST DATE IDEAS
1. First dates are less stressful if you go in a group. Perhaps even particpate in a group activity. Let the group date center around activities that you both have in common and/or an activity that you both like to do and are good at. If you consider yourself a patient teacher, now isn't the time to show that off. Save that for the second or third date. You don't yet understand your date's true dating temperment and it could kill the mood for the rest of the evening.
2. Go on a date and do an activity that both of you are confident in.
Tailor a first date to something you're both good at because it'll foster a positive connection between you. Even in our modern times, the essence of dating hasn't changed. It's still to share a common interest, keep an open mind, and always, have fun!
3. Dance lessons are a really great first date. Women, for the most part, like to dance. Taking lessons together gives you the opportunity to get closer and see if you have chemistry. Many nightclubs have dance lessons on certain nights or some have lessons for an hour or two before the doors open.
Call around and ask if any clubs in your area do this. The good thing is that the lessons are usually free so you could stay after, have a few drinks, and use what you've just learned to dance together before you head out to dinner or a movie. Another advantage is that, if the date isn't going well, you could end it after the dance lessons!
4. Go on a picnic. One of the more soothing dates is a picnic in the park or at the beach. Decide what the two of you will bring for the food. This is perfect for two people who like the outdoors. If you're so inclined, invite 2 more couples to come along. If the date's going well, the two of you can take a walk to be alone and talk. If it has anxious pauses, you'll have two other couples to help relax the atmosphere.
5. If art is what you both like, go on an art gallery walk or to a museum. Or find a wine tasting art auction and limit you wine intake (you wouldn't want to over bid).
6. Go to a book reading at your local bookstore or college.
7. Rent a canoe or a sail boat and head out on the high seas. I once went on a date with a man who rented a boat and anchored it in a location where we saw a concert by the bay. Bring a little wine and cheese and you have a perfect setting for romance. My date happened to end with a fireworks display. It was very romantic.
8. If you both enjoy music, a concert is a good bet.
9. Finally, talking on a date is the last anxiety causing activity. What do you talk about? It's important to remember that the purpose of the date is to make the other person feel comfortable with you, accepted by you, attractive, and they should feel that you'd like to see them again (if you do). If you don't, then graciously end the date because that person is missing the chance to meet someone who will. The discussion should be the two of you asking about each other. You should genuinely want to get to know the other person. This isn't a job interview but you want to ask questions of interests without becoming too intrusive.
Before I conclude this article, let's watch a vintage commercial, shall we? I certainly hope that during your date you (or the date) don't end up like the people in THIS commercial..... let's watch!
That poor guy, he didn't have a chance! It's circa 1970.
Now, hopefully these articles help you to go give the dating scene a chance. It's not so hard. If you're a lady, share this with your men friends. If you're a man....how YOU doing ;). But whichever your fancy is, remember to stay funky, stay fab!!
First dates can make us anxious. There's the question of what to wear, what to talk about and of course, where to go. This is especially true if this is the first date you've been on in a long time, maybe in years or for some of us, decades!! Ok, maybe not decades....
SMART FIRST DATE IDEAS
1. First dates are less stressful if you go in a group. Perhaps even particpate in a group activity. Let the group date center around activities that you both have in common and/or an activity that you both like to do and are good at. If you consider yourself a patient teacher, now isn't the time to show that off. Save that for the second or third date. You don't yet understand your date's true dating temperment and it could kill the mood for the rest of the evening.
2. Go on a date and do an activity that both of you are confident in.
Tailor a first date to something you're both good at because it'll foster a positive connection between you. Even in our modern times, the essence of dating hasn't changed. It's still to share a common interest, keep an open mind, and always, have fun!
3. Dance lessons are a really great first date. Women, for the most part, like to dance. Taking lessons together gives you the opportunity to get closer and see if you have chemistry. Many nightclubs have dance lessons on certain nights or some have lessons for an hour or two before the doors open.
Call around and ask if any clubs in your area do this. The good thing is that the lessons are usually free so you could stay after, have a few drinks, and use what you've just learned to dance together before you head out to dinner or a movie. Another advantage is that, if the date isn't going well, you could end it after the dance lessons!
4. Go on a picnic. One of the more soothing dates is a picnic in the park or at the beach. Decide what the two of you will bring for the food. This is perfect for two people who like the outdoors. If you're so inclined, invite 2 more couples to come along. If the date's going well, the two of you can take a walk to be alone and talk. If it has anxious pauses, you'll have two other couples to help relax the atmosphere.
5. If art is what you both like, go on an art gallery walk or to a museum. Or find a wine tasting art auction and limit you wine intake (you wouldn't want to over bid).
6. Go to a book reading at your local bookstore or college.
7. Rent a canoe or a sail boat and head out on the high seas. I once went on a date with a man who rented a boat and anchored it in a location where we saw a concert by the bay. Bring a little wine and cheese and you have a perfect setting for romance. My date happened to end with a fireworks display. It was very romantic.
8. If you both enjoy music, a concert is a good bet.
9. Finally, talking on a date is the last anxiety causing activity. What do you talk about? It's important to remember that the purpose of the date is to make the other person feel comfortable with you, accepted by you, attractive, and they should feel that you'd like to see them again (if you do). If you don't, then graciously end the date because that person is missing the chance to meet someone who will. The discussion should be the two of you asking about each other. You should genuinely want to get to know the other person. This isn't a job interview but you want to ask questions of interests without becoming too intrusive.
Before I conclude this article, let's watch a vintage commercial, shall we? I certainly hope that during your date you (or the date) don't end up like the people in THIS commercial..... let's watch!
That poor guy, he didn't have a chance! It's circa 1970.
Now, hopefully these articles help you to go give the dating scene a chance. It's not so hard. If you're a lady, share this with your men friends. If you're a man....how YOU doing ;). But whichever your fancy is, remember to stay funky, stay fab!!
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